Working with relationships - whether they be partners, friends, parent/child, I assist each person to "make the darkness conscious, " for that is where we get stuck in relationships. In general, this stuckness manifests itself by our thinking that the other person is the cause of our suffering; if only they would _____________, then we would be happier.
In reality, we have chosen our partners, friends etc. to help us to heal. I chose each partner that betrayed me to help me to uncover and feel long buried feelings (among other things).
Often it takes a trained facilitator to help you to take advantage of the healing moments that disguise themselves as conflict or unhappiness in relationship.
It can also be helpful to have a context of common relationship patterns and how to return to more romance, aliveness and fun.
Start by noticing your patterns and telling the truth to yourself and to your partner. Be willing to look at your projections and notice some possibilities of what you may not be seeing about yourself. Relationship Balancing is a simple and yet profound way of accessing projections and beliefs about the other. Once uncovered and balanced, this process can create lasting aliveness and resources within the relationship.
Couples coaching can be some of the most fun and rewarding time to spend with each other.
Proceed to information about my relationship story, which illustrates some personal ways in which transformation occured.